How To Save Your Marriage And Solve Common Marriage Problems
If you ever said that you had no quarrel or relationship problems with your spouse, then you are lying. It is extremely rare for a couple not to have arguments when they live together for a period of time.
Every marriage will experience some sort of relationship problems, sooner or later. The successful couples are the ones who recognize ahead of time what those marriage problems can be and learn how to deal and resolve them, amicably, of course.
Communication Problems
All relationship problems started when you and your spouse suffer from poor communication. Early recognition of poor communication can stop a big fight.Set a time, like making an appointment with your spouse to talk. Switch off the TV, make sure the children are sleeping, put your cell phones on vibrate and just talk for 10mins.
Try not to raise your voice and speak in a nice tone. Look into the eyes of your spouse and give your spouse 100% of your time by not picking your nose, playing with your iPhone etc. Look into your spouse’s eyes and nod frequently so that your spouse knows that you are listening and getting the message.
Money Problems
We live in a world that is very dependent in money transaction. From the start of the courtship to the eventual wedding to building a home together, these expenses adds up and may cause a couple to fight over money.
First, again, set a time that is convenient to the both of you. Be honest about the current situation and take steps to manage it. Be it getting a joint account or managing bad debt. And do not hide any income or debt. Be open to any ideas that your spouse might suggests and try to reach a common ground.
Trust Issues
This is a very important component in any relationship. When the trust is broken, then you and your spouse are facing a very serious relationship problem. At this point, you may need professional help if you and your spouse cannot resolve the issues.
Trust cannot be earned overnight, rather it is over time by following a few tips. Be consistent. Do what you say you will do. Do call home when you are late. Call when you say you will. Do not bring up old wounds and never say things that you cannot take back. Be sensitive to your spouse’s feelings and be fair even in argument. Do not be jealous and be a good listener too.
Enhancing Communication Can Fix Relationship Problems
I am sure you get tired of hearing that you just need to communicate better to fix your relationship problems. Unfortunately, it is well researched that hurt feelings and arguments are usually because we really don’t understand where our partner is coming from. We all feel hurt and unappreciated from time to time and we get so caught up in our own busy lives, we often fail to really hear what is behind our partners concerns.
When we don’t communicate well... it usually means we don’t listen well. How do we get our spouse to really hear us because the continual state of frustration and repressed anger can be the poison that ruins a marriage.
Often it is something minor that causes the eruption but really it was the lack of communication or the true understanding of the hurt feelings that is the true problem.
Do you and your spouse find it difficult to have a complete conversation without leaving the conflict in anger and unresolved. The emotional buttons that we push in our marriage is not how we should communicate.
Learning to communicate effectively can really help us fix our marriage problems. We have to work to be fully attentive and really understand what underlies the problems. We have to be committed to step back from our own anger and emotions and try to feel empathy towards our spouse even when we want to shake them. It is one of the hardest things to do in this world... but if you can find a way to listen, open your heart and really try to put yourself in the shoes of your partner, then I am confident that connection and intimacy will be found.
Some communication blocks to look out for are sighing and rolling your eyes when your spouse in trying to explain their viewpoint. Not stopping to listen to your spouse when they are bringing forward a real issue can be a problem to fixing your marriage. Make eye contact and try to really understand how or why they are feeling that way. Try to make an agreement to hear each other out before you inject your side of the story.
It has been quoted that “for every minute you are angry with someone, you lose sixty seconds of happiness that you can never get back.” Sometimes anger is good but sometimes it is overused.
True connection, friendship and love can be hard to come by in this world. Don’t you think that you owe it to yourself to do everything you can to insure that you have quality communication in your relationship.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “The most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give.”
If the only thing you give in your relationship over the next month is good communication... you will be amazed at the positive effects. If someone asked me what one thing they could do to fix their marriage, I would definitely say to learn the secrets of marriage communication. In fact I have articles and a free mini-course that spends a great deal of time on communication.
Every marriage will experience some sort of relationship problems, sooner or later. The successful couples are the ones who recognize ahead of time what those marriage problems can be and learn how to deal and resolve them, amicably, of course.
Communication Problems
All relationship problems started when you and your spouse suffer from poor communication. Early recognition of poor communication can stop a big fight.Set a time, like making an appointment with your spouse to talk. Switch off the TV, make sure the children are sleeping, put your cell phones on vibrate and just talk for 10mins.
Try not to raise your voice and speak in a nice tone. Look into the eyes of your spouse and give your spouse 100% of your time by not picking your nose, playing with your iPhone etc. Look into your spouse’s eyes and nod frequently so that your spouse knows that you are listening and getting the message.
Money Problems
We live in a world that is very dependent in money transaction. From the start of the courtship to the eventual wedding to building a home together, these expenses adds up and may cause a couple to fight over money.
First, again, set a time that is convenient to the both of you. Be honest about the current situation and take steps to manage it. Be it getting a joint account or managing bad debt. And do not hide any income or debt. Be open to any ideas that your spouse might suggests and try to reach a common ground.
Trust Issues
This is a very important component in any relationship. When the trust is broken, then you and your spouse are facing a very serious relationship problem. At this point, you may need professional help if you and your spouse cannot resolve the issues.
Trust cannot be earned overnight, rather it is over time by following a few tips. Be consistent. Do what you say you will do. Do call home when you are late. Call when you say you will. Do not bring up old wounds and never say things that you cannot take back. Be sensitive to your spouse’s feelings and be fair even in argument. Do not be jealous and be a good listener too.
Enhancing Communication Can Fix Relationship Problems
I am sure you get tired of hearing that you just need to communicate better to fix your relationship problems. Unfortunately, it is well researched that hurt feelings and arguments are usually because we really don’t understand where our partner is coming from. We all feel hurt and unappreciated from time to time and we get so caught up in our own busy lives, we often fail to really hear what is behind our partners concerns.
When we don’t communicate well... it usually means we don’t listen well. How do we get our spouse to really hear us because the continual state of frustration and repressed anger can be the poison that ruins a marriage.
Often it is something minor that causes the eruption but really it was the lack of communication or the true understanding of the hurt feelings that is the true problem.
Do you and your spouse find it difficult to have a complete conversation without leaving the conflict in anger and unresolved. The emotional buttons that we push in our marriage is not how we should communicate.
Learning to communicate effectively can really help us fix our marriage problems. We have to work to be fully attentive and really understand what underlies the problems. We have to be committed to step back from our own anger and emotions and try to feel empathy towards our spouse even when we want to shake them. It is one of the hardest things to do in this world... but if you can find a way to listen, open your heart and really try to put yourself in the shoes of your partner, then I am confident that connection and intimacy will be found.
Some communication blocks to look out for are sighing and rolling your eyes when your spouse in trying to explain their viewpoint. Not stopping to listen to your spouse when they are bringing forward a real issue can be a problem to fixing your marriage. Make eye contact and try to really understand how or why they are feeling that way. Try to make an agreement to hear each other out before you inject your side of the story.
It has been quoted that “for every minute you are angry with someone, you lose sixty seconds of happiness that you can never get back.” Sometimes anger is good but sometimes it is overused.
True connection, friendship and love can be hard to come by in this world. Don’t you think that you owe it to yourself to do everything you can to insure that you have quality communication in your relationship.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “The most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give.”
If the only thing you give in your relationship over the next month is good communication... you will be amazed at the positive effects. If someone asked me what one thing they could do to fix their marriage, I would definitely say to learn the secrets of marriage communication. In fact I have articles and a free mini-course that spends a great deal of time on communication.